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Keeping the holidays in your heart

Its easy to be jaded with the wonderful life you have, its easy because you take it all for granted – there is no doubt in my mind that 90% of the people I know just live each day like the last and forget the true meaning of this holiday. This holiday season is important to me because of a recent health scare I had… I kid you not – I almost wasnt here today to tell you about why its important to be thankful, to appreciate your love ones, and most of all take time to slow down.

I know the motions, I know the drain that life, work, family, money can put on you… I know there are pressures from every direction but the key is to make sure you have respect for it all. Just think about tomorrow if you werent here, how would your children be? how would your partner be? does it scare you? cause it sure as shit scared me… I woke up thanksgiving morning to a heart attack and since then I feel like my life is one of those Jimmy Stewart movies – I’ve found joy in the small things – I’m trying to reset the balance of my life… and I’m appreciating the time with my family. It’s so easy to be frustrated at a child – they cry and whine, we become annoyed… but if that cry and whine was a remembrance of life and the future you have it sounds sooo different. That’s why I ask to for you to keep this holiday in your heart, its so easy to overlook what the base of this holiday is, its not shopping, its not finding the perfect gift, or that really hard to find one, its being together.

For this holiday season – I ask one simple thing – Take a moment (take two) (take three) create a memory with your children… create a memory with your partner and most of all remember to take it all in. Life is short – we never know just how short until its almost ripped from us. Hug your children – Hug your partner… open that bottle of wine and just sit and relax and start to think about what you want to do this coming year that will be different from the last. For me its take time out – to create special memories with my wife and son… but whats on your list?

pushing beyond limits how proud am I of my wife!

It’s not every husband who can sit there and talk about how proud he is of their wife! I was totally that guy this weekend – Suzanne for her second time completed a marathon but this time it was the New York Marathon!

Suzanne’s marathon history started with the San Diego Marathon which was also how I proposed (it was romantic, until the flight was canceled…lol) 3+ years ago. For us it was a different time and a different place in life – no kids limited responsibilities which is why this marathon was so much different.  We have a toddler, who greatly limits our good night sleep and we have roles, responsibilities, but that was just small challenges that were easily overcome by my wife!

She had long discussed after San Diego wanting to make a go at the NYC marathon but timing, kids, it never fit and it wasnt until this past spring when she had made up her mind about really wanting to do it!  She has been training for months, which is no easy task, as she has changed her eating habits to carb-o-load which isnt our typical meal. She changed sleep schedules to be able to make it to trainings and early morning gym sessions.

The time and energy one puts into training for the marathon is a thousand times harder then actually running the marathon (well I’m not really sure if thats soooo true as I’ve never ran a marathon but from my perspective it is :P) She ran an incredible race – it was really not easy to spot her but I used the subways and some good old fashion running to get to 5 different points to see Suzanne. Of course in a crowd of 100s running past you every minute it wasnt always the easiest to pick her out of the crowd but I was able to clearly see her 3 out of the 5 times. I covered about 18 miles worth of the over all race, she ran the entire 26.2 miles.

I am so proud of my wife, I really cant express it! She has done something that less then 1% of the human population will ever try or succeed in doing and to me thats pretty amazing!

Parenting the endless sacrifice or the sacrifice for the future?

For a while now my wife and I have been talking about the sacrifices we’ve been making as parents. I’m sure you’ve made yours we all have is my take on it. Then it occurs to me that we’re a much more selfish generation (maybe one of the worst in history). I was once talking about how we’re so selfish as parents when another blogger chimed in and said that all kids are more selfish then their parents because our parents want them to be better then how they had and in turn work hard to provide more. I’ve been thinking isn’t that circle making it much worst for the future generations?

In having a similar discussion of the new graduates of college working in the PR industry one senior PR person joked these kids dont even want to get coffee or do real work; they all just want to sit around and try to become celebrities… I get it, clearly look at the cast of jersey shore – right?!

I worry about the future for many reasons – living in NYC I need to deal with education prior to Kindergarten, so we’re juggling the whole 2 income with school or nanny/child care or 1 income and barely making but with a stay at home parent.  I know my wife and I are really feeling the sacrifice these days mainly because we just had our second time alone from our child for more then 3 days.  It was great other then the fact they were some of the busiest days we’ve had in over 2 years.

My mom hung out for a while with my wife tonight and she even made a comment about how life’s a sacrifice and she’s proud that hers gave true to the fruits that are now me… and (here comes the mom jab) that I need to step it up and do more with my son…. (if you heard a car crash sound it was just me driving off a bridge)… I’m pushing myself to limits here to build a better life for my son.  Talking with my wife day in and day out about how we can do more with less or get more to do more… while others say money doesn’t buy happiness (I completely agree) it does afford you better aspirin! No really I get it – in NYC to live a good life you need some moderate amount of money…

I guess the long and the short of it is – are we always sacrificing for a better life for our kids? or are we sacrificing for our future? or is there a good balance of not just living in the now but not missing out on our kids?

Teaching our children about charity, comes from the heart!

One thing that I’ve always been in my life is giving… I’ve been working in non-profits and Not-for-profits all my professional life, its really one of the struggles I have in my head – do good for many or do good for myself – they seem to be at odds.

Teaching our children about charity even in times like these are important… Usually this is done through school’s community service programs or through a religious school sponsorship of event or their own requirements to give back to the charity.

Lately I’ve been doing a lot of charity fund raising for the last 2-3 months its been for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.  This is important to both my wife and myself that we raise our child with knowledge of giving back – paying it forward ect… we do believe in karma – I’m a huge believe in the cycle of life.  Its part the reason why I hope I do right and good by others they’ll do right by me.

I rotate the charities I support some because of direction of my own life and some because of influences like friends or family.   Years ago one of those influences came to Suzanne and myself and she searched for a charity to run in honor of someone close to us both… She found the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society she successfully raised over $4,000 and completed the San Diego Marathon.  Now years later shes trying to raise money again for Leukemia & Lymphoma Society this time its $3800 and she’ll run and complete the New York Marathon.  Times have changed and its harder to raise money for a charity, which is why this has been on my mind and I’m blogging about it! Charities are usually based on fund raising and donations which require giving… you dont have to give much but give a little something… every dollar matters.  Instead of having that starbucks donate that $3-5, 10 for lunch ect. If 10 people did that thats $30, 50, 100 it adds up and it helps.

Most of the best break though research comes from organizations like Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.  I know my son is watching his mom run (as we’ve waived from our Apartment once or twice as she ran by) and will watch in person at the NYC marathon! He’ll understand that her commitment was to help others.

If you can give anything that would be wonderful! 100% of your donation is tax deductible To make a donation please click here and thank you.

http://pages.teamintraining.org/nyc/nyc10/suzannecohen

Love kids hate life…

A few weeks ago New York Magazine published this article “I love my Children. I Hate My life.” [http://nymag.com/news/features/67024/] I was sitting at my desk watching headlines flow by when I just stopped and was like wow – only sometimes… After watching the tweets and blog posts about this article I was surprised to see how many denied ever having a single moment of saying I miss those good old days.

Dont get me wrong – the best thing in my life is my son, with a quick second being my wife. She’ll get mad as she would most likely would have wanted to be number one and having the kiddo being number two. oh well.  I do wish for alterations in my life – mainly in the life style department. I really dont know many people at this point in life who dont wish for different things in the lifestyle aspect. Perhaps a larger apartment, maybe some money in the bank, more support to help with the kids, money for private school… ect…ect the lists could go on and on.

One amazing thing when you think about having children is that we used to have child in order to create clans, or in some aspects of the world it was to help with the farm.  Now we have children out of the desire to have legacy.

I dont know if I hate my life right now, I enjoy having many different things on my plate and things are starting to take shape… I do know I’m not in love with my life in many of the aspects that I listed above… I would love to have money in the bank, money to put 20% down on a house, money for the best education my child could have… but there are aspects of my life I wouldnt trade for the world – the giggling-laugh of my child, the kisses my wife gives me when she’s happy (I’m sure there could be a joke in this one someplace), the moments I look out my windows on to the sea of people visiting the farmers market in Union Square.

I clearly thing there is a difference between life and lifestyle – I love my life – love the family and friends – love the times I share with my family. Its my lifestyle that I wished was something different and maybe thats my fault, maybe it is a combination of looking at what others have and having a jealous of why not me? (which I really try not to do) but I do know there is things I want and I’m trying to work hard to earn them.

Which goes back to the greatest issue of the modern times of work life balance, unless you have family money (and sometimes even then) you’re still working to make a living. That could be an American concept this live to work not work to live mentally like other nations have….

Time to take the kiddo to a ball game – Win a pair of tickets to Sunday’s Mets vs Yankees Game!

Father’s day is rolling up and I was doing this BBQ thing but seems thats not happening well good thing in New York City there is always something to do… so this Father’s day will be the first time we’re taking kiddo to the ball game!

It’ll be a great family outing on top of wifey, kiddo and I, we’ll be adding papa (my father).  This will be the first time for any of us to the new Yankees Stadium, it’ll be the first ball game for the kiddo and I couldnt be more excited.

I’m pretty pumped to be able to offer this next part… Win 2 tickets to the game!This is going to be a very short contest and will require you to be sitting next to us at the game (I’ll apologize now for kiddo tossing anything at you [just be glad your not the person sitting in front of kiddo]) on top of the tickets you’ll also get a Father/Kid sized Yankees Jersey. Overall how could this not be the best father’s day ever… if you dont have a lil kid and want to take a big one thats fine too – when it cames to baseball we’re all kids at heart.

How to win it… Contest ends 08:59am EST. June 19, 2010.

You must comment telling us your favorite baseball player (playing today), please include some method for us to contact you in the comment (twitter or email)

You get 1 extra entry for following us on twitter – twitter.com/dada_rocks

You get 1 extra entry for tweeting about this contest (you can do this daily). Must contain the following information:

#Mets_vs_Yankees @dada_rocks – http://bit.ly/aePopA  and you must also comment with the link to your twitter message.

Example: I want to win the #Mets_vs_Yankees tickets from @dada_rocks – http://bit.ly/aePopA

You get 1 extra entry for becoming a Fan on facebook – facebook.com/dada_rocks you must comment that you’re a fan


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You will have 6 hours to reply before we pick another winner! Once again you will be sitting next to DaDa Rocks! and you will have to meet me to get the tickets on Saturday at some point in NYC.

Disclaimer: Pampers is providing the prize for the raffle.

Date Night Giveaway: SOFIA REI KOUTSOVITIS at Joe’s Pub

SOFIA REI KOUTSOVITIS

Saturday, June 19 at 7:00 PM

As the Argentine singer Sofia Rei Koutsovitis led her multinational band… the passion and clarity with which she assayed a tricky mix of South American rhythms and jazz-inflected harmonies made clear why she has been embraced by New York City audiences from Carnegie Hall to the hippest downtown haunts.” – Phil Lutz, New York Times

“…one of the most versatile and in-demand singers on the New York music scene.” – Simon Calle,  All About Jazz

“…a potent combination that’s like nothing else around” – Kevin Convey, Boston Herald


Sofia Rei Koutsovitis is one of New York’s most passionate, charismatic and inventive vocalists, who brings depth and fullness of a riveting voice to her second album, “Sube Azul” (World Village/Harmonia Mundi). She also serves as the album’s composer, arranger, lyricist and — with bassist Jorge Roeder — producer. Following up on “Ojalá,” her polyglot and multilingual debut, she offers this time a collection of mostly original Spanish-language songs, building on a new set of growth experiences since moving to New York in 2005.

Originally from Buenos Aires, Argentina, the album is grounded in traditional South American rhythms such as chacarera, zamba and vidala from Argentina, Afro-peruvian festejo and lando, Afro-Uruguayan candombe, Colombian cumbia and bullerengue and other genres that merge involving jazz harmonies, electronic sounds and rich improvisations. Singing in Spanish, Portuguese or English, Sofia’s voice is graceful as well as sophisticated, tying together diverse influences in a program full of rhythmic complexity, melody and romance.

Sofia is a restless artist, one of the most versatile and in-demand singers on the New York music scene. She has recorded, performed and collaborated with renowned musicians and groups such as Maria Schneider, John Zorn, Bobby McFerrin, Folklore Urbano, John Scofield, Lionel Loueke, Pavel Urkiza (Gema y Pavel), Russ Ferrante (Yellow Jackets), Bob Moses, Aquiles Baez, Samuel Torres Group,  Pedrito Martinez, and Avantango. She is also the vocalist of Geoffrey Keezer’s “Aurea,” whose self-titled 2009 release received a Grammy nomination for Best Latin Jazz Album.  $15 in advance [Link] / $20 at the door


How to win it… Contest ends 11:59pm EST. June 17, 2010.

You get 1 entry for placing a comment your favorite lullabies song is and please use some method for us to contact you in the comment
(twitter or email)

You get 1 extra entry for following us on twitter – twitter.com/dada_rocks

You get 1 extra entry for tweeting about this contest (you can do this daily). Must contain the following information:
@joespubnyc @dada_rocks – http://bit.ly/at0lg9  and you must also comment with the link to your twitter message.

Example: Would love to win a Date Night at @joespubnyc from @dada_rocks –http://bit.ly/at0lg9

You get 1 extra entry for becoming a FAN on facebook –facebook.com/DaDaRocks you must comment that you’re a fan

You get 1 extra entry for becoming a Fan on facebook of Joe’s Pub – facebook.com/joespub you must comment that you’re a fan

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You will have 12 hours to reply before we pick another winner!

Disclaimer: Joe’s Pub is providing these tickets for the raffle.

Father’s Day Gift Giveaway: Jabra Wireless Gear!

Jabra HALO [Amazon]

The Jabra HALO is a wireless Bluetooth stereo headset that allows users to enjoy wireless music and answer phone calls in crystal clear stereo sound.  Featuring A2DP technology, the Jabra HALO gives users the ability to seamlessly connect to any Bluetooth music-playing device – and all 3.5 mm music playing devices – including mobile phones, Mp3 players, laptops, and TVs.  In addition, ensuring that users won’t miss phone calls while listening to music, the HALO fades out music to allow for incoming calls. The HALO features a lightweight (only 3 ounces!) over-the-head design with a foldable headband – small enough to take it wherever you go.  The HALO also has the versatility to switch between wireless and wired connectivity if a device doesn’t support Bluetooth stereo (A2DP) technology.  The device also features Zirene® Power Bass for audio enhancement.


Jabra STONE [Amazon]

The Jabra STONE, the most sleek and stylish Bluetooth on the market allows busy moms to look good on the go. The STONE elegantly wraps behind the ear eliminating the on-face microphone look, combining style and function. Make play dates, speak to colleagues, or make dinner plans for a girl’s night out – all without anyone even knowing you are wearing a Bluetooth device! New noise cancelling technology ensures every phone call will be clear and uninterrupted by whatever noise surrounds you throughout your day.  In addition, the STONE comes with a portable charger so it is always easy to re-charge.


Jabra CRUISER [Amazon]

The Jabra CRUISER is the first Bluetooth wireless speakerphone to feature noise cancelling technology, allowing it to block out background noise from traffic or other passengers while enhancing the quality of your voice. In addition, the CRUISER can play music from the radio and your phone or portable music players (iPod/MP3 players) through your cars stereo system, so you’ll never miss a call because you couldn’t hear your phone. The CRUISER allows you to speak on the phone when you drive in compliance to hands free driving laws, making it extremely useful for moms on the go whether you are driving to soccer practice or going to work.  Never again will you have a frustrating phone call where you have to repeat everything you say because no one can hear you over the kids singing along in the backseat!

Jabra’s Website [Link]

I’ve had all three of these devices for a few weeks now and I can tell you how cool they are until you’ve got them in your hands – the sound is amazing! Best part is if your using these to speak with someone, they can actually hear you! I had these devices synced to my iPhone 3G in less then 2 minutes.

It was that easy!

The Halo works as wireless headphones and also a headset mic. The sound that comes out of these speakers is amazing and crystal clear.

The Stone is a typical bluetooth headset expect the base part of it will recharge the wireless piece this is great for the always on the phone executive or just on the go dad.

It frees up your hands when pushing a stroller too!

The Cruiser is a speaker phone (designed for the car) but will work anyplace – the speaker is at least 5 times louder then the speaker built into the iPhone (meaning you can actually use a speaker phone call).

I love these products so much I wanted to give everyone a shot at winning.  There will be 3 – yes THREE winners 1 prize per person.

How to win it… Contest ends 11:59am EST. June 16, 2010.

You get 1 entry for placing a comment if you could turn something wireless what would it be & why, which of the 3 devices you’d like to win and please use some method for us to contact you in the comment (twitter or email)

You get 1 extra entry for following us on twitter – twitter.com/dada_rocks

You get 1 extra entry for following Jabra on twitter – twitter.com/Jabra_US

You get 1 extra entry for tweeting about this contest (you can do this daily). Must contain the following information:
@Jabra_US @dada_rocks – http://bit.ly/du4gk0  and you must also leave a comment with the link to your twitter message.

Example: I want to win a @Jabra_US [device’s name] from @dada_rocks – http://bit.ly/du4gk0

You get 1 extra entry for becoming a FAN on facebook –facebook.com/DaDaRocks you must a comment that you’re a fan

You get 1 extra entry for becoming a Fan on facebook of Jabra – facebook.com/Jabra.US you must a comment that you’re a fan

You get 1 extra entry for subscribing to our Feedburner digest mailing (right side subscribe by email) – you must also comment that you’ve subscribed

You will have 12 hours to reply before we pick another winner!

Disclaimer: Jabra is providing these devices for the raffle.